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startover1moretime   in reply to startover1moretime   on

bjctech

oops, that's a repeat, lol. just learning this site.. not intentional
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startover1moretime   in reply to Dobguy1   on

There are some pretty tough situations in here no doubt...Ive read alot of them and it

Thanks for this one, Dobguy1. Much appreciate your thoughts on "if only I had more money" as I've come to similar conclusions as you have; I've had more money than I do now.. which is practically none. But it ain't the key factor in my life, dunno that it ever really was.. but I'm glad I've gotten to learn, even though it was late in life, that more money doesn't make a person more secure on the inside, or happier. Just increases the wish list of what all else they 'can't live without' as soon as the basics are taken care of.. is more like it. Most of my life I've blamed the way I felt on not having enough money, the right kind of love, the circumstances I would have wanted.. some version of the IF ONLY trap that's so easy to get into. Like what you said about the cognitive issues, I write a lot for the same reason even though mine stem from other causes.

Would like to find out more about your experience with publishing online please? TY!

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startover1moretime   in reply to bjctech   on

bjctech

bjtech... what is best way to find the job postings here that you mentioned in a reply?
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startover1moretime   in reply to bjctech   on

Single mom dv victom: Hello..I am a single mom of 2 boys ages 5 years old and 2 years old. I am currently

bjtech... what is the best way to find the job postings you mention?
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startover1moretime   in reply to singlemommichigan   on

Single mom dv victom: Hello..I am a single mom of 2 boys ages 5 years old and 2 years old. I am currently

My heart goes out to you. It takes courage to leave, I commend you for finding that courage! The DV cycle is a hard one to break, and walking away is just the beginning.

Yes, you want your children to have a nice holiday season, of course you do! But who's to say they can't have a great holiday at the shelter... while you begin to recuperate from the violence you've been through, too? DV shelter is a good place to start, for making a new beginning. I've been in one.. and wanted to be outta there by Thanksgiving to celebrate it with my kids in a new home. But the transition did not go quite as fast as I would have liked at the time; still there... and had an opportunity to be thankful that I made it all worthwhile. Then Christmas came; I got to see the spirit if unconditional giving as so many people in that small town found a way to bless everyone at that shelter!!! Blew me away, I had never seen that before! Early Jan I got to move to transitional housing... and it was a blessing that would lead to further blessings, a new life in the months to come, and a new home and new job. That's what shelters do:
they help you make the transition you cannot see a way of making alone.

There was a woman there who turned white as a sheet the day she though she spotted her husband; he was a vicious man and she was terrified of him. There was another woman, after about 3 weeks couldn't wait to get back home... getting caught up again in the DENIAL trap convincing herself 'he learned his lesson' -- which is typical for the DV merry-go-round; mot women have to leave several times to get that part; that is, if they live and don't end up dead. Which, as you shared, may be a possibility; if that happens there would be no joy in Christmas for your kids, maybe forever. Please stay put. And please be open to the opportunity a shelter can provide.. for giving your kids a wonderful Christmas and for you to make a start on the better life you want for them!

God bless you, hon. He can give you the courage you need to see this through!
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startover1moretime   in reply to positive thoughts   on

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Thank you for saying that! I know you weren't talking to me.. but I needed to hear it anyway. Thank you especially for the One Day at a Time reminder, so needed right now.
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startover1moretime   in reply to NoTsOpReTtYnOw   on

My heart goes out to you, I wish I had more than words to offer. It takes courage to ask for help, courage to admit "I don't know what to do" and even more courage to walk away from a violent & hurtful involvement. That's a lot of courage for someone so young! When I was young that was courage I didn't have; so not one to point fingers as I've made my share of mistakes in life and some of them came with high price tags. The biggest one of all was probably to NOT ask when I would have needed help but was too ashamed and too afraid to be able to get the words out.. so I never gave anybody a chance to be there for me who might have cared. Everybody lost, in that equation.

Not sure where you are but there's agencies that do help especially with pregnancy there are options they can tell you about, maybe there's a group home for teen moms or some other living arrangement and a way to build a life for you two? Myself may end up without a roof over my head soon, no idea which way the road is turning... but lived long enough to know that miracles do happen when one has faith even the size of a mustard seed.

Be blessed, courageous young one. God keep watch over you+baby (and me too)
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startover1moretime   in reply to Mom trying to stay strong   on

Mom trying to stay strong

Thank you for sharing here how things have been turning out for you. It is encouraging to know that no matter how difficult things can get God does make a way. That's what I'm trusting in, that He will for me too.
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Place I've been living at just went into foreclosure; I'll have no place to live when it sells. No paying job, just kid-sitting helper lately; kids are now in school so that just came to an end also. Time for a new beginning, starting from scratch this time, when most everybody my age (59) got their life map figured out and at least some of their ducks in a row; that part sucks, and right now looks scary. The 'outside stuff' in my life fell apart 6 yrs ago; after being rebuilt 10 yrs prior after marriage fell apart. No choice but to work through the 'inside stuff' I had never dealt with, lot of healing came from that not just for me but also for no longer estranged family who live a continent away. Need and want a new start, and trust that God did not bring me this far to drop me, just now I don't know where to begin this time or where the road is going..
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